Belonging Starts with Belonging to Ourselves!

wendigiuliano
Aug 15
2 min read

A woman with her hands on her chest and a moon and sun over each shoulder.

I attended a Lion’s Gate online event on August 8th and one of the questions we were asked to ponder was, “How can we step through the portal, what is causing us resistance?” Showing gratitude and walking through with everything we have going on right now in the present moment. Showing up as all of ourselves. One woman typed in the chat, “Belonging starts with Belonging to Ourselves” and now how many days later I am still thinking about this.

I used to think belonging was something others gave me. A smile across a crowded room. An invitation to join a circle. A nod of acceptance from people I admired.

Now I am learning, it begins in my own heart. Belonging starts with belonging to ourselves.

What does belonging mean?

To belong to ourselves is to stop leaving ourselves behind in the name of acceptance. It means holding our own hand in moments of doubt. It means being loyal to our soul’s truth even when others don’t understand.

From a spiritual perspective, our soul chose us as its perfect home. Every quirk, every gift, every life experience is sacred material for our journey. When we reject parts of ourselves to fit in, we are turning away from the very essence we came here to live.

You might notice you’re not fully belonging to yourself if:

You say “yes” when your body feels “no.”
You shrink your ideas or dim your light to avoid judgment.
You rely on constant external validation to feel safe.
You feel restless, disconnected, or “off” without knowing why. Or as someone recently shared with me, they felt mediocre.

These aren’t failures, they’re invitations to come back home.

Here are a few spiritual practices you can use when you noticed you have wandered from yourself:

Heart Space Check-In

Each morning, place your hand over your heart and ask, “What do you need from me today?” Then, actually give it.
Energy Clearing

Through Reiki, breathwork, or grounding meditations, release the energy of others’ expectations so you can hear your own.
Sacred Boundaries

View boundaries not as walls, but as devotion to your own well-being. Every “no” to what drains you is a “yes” to what nourishes you.
Journaling for Truth

Try the prompt: “Where have I been abandoning myself, and what would it look like to stay?”

When we belong to ourselves, we naturally find the people and places that feel like home. We no longer bend ourselves into shapes to fit in. Instead, we stand in our truth, and the right connections rise to meet us.

This is the law of resonance in action: when your energy is aligned with your soul, you attract what matches it.