Borrowing Someone Else's Faith Until I Found My Own

Sometimes, we need someone to believe in us before we believe in ourselves.

While reading Sonia Choquette’s "Trusting Your Vibes", I came across the concept of belief mirroring. Sonia shares how someone else’s belief in her helped her with writing a book, even when she wasn’t quite sure. That idea lit up something inside me. I had lived that too. (And that is how I shared this in a talk for Polka Dot Powerhouse’s Sisterhood Summit in Denver).

I was sitting in a Dot Diamond Mastermind, and I was quietly wrestling with something. I had just stepped into the world of energy work as a new Reiki practitioner, but I was holding back. I didn’t feel ready. I didn’t want to ‘put myself out there.’ I told myself I did this just for me.

And then… Jen Draper.

She looked me and said, ‘What would you charge for a session?’

I deflected by saying I don’t know. She persisted, well if you did know what would it be?

Until I finally said, ‘maybe $60?’

Not five minutes later, I looked at my phone and there it was. A Venmo notification. Jen had sent me $60. The note read: ‘I am your first client (And maybe Let’s Go).’

Jen saw something in me before I could see it in myself.

She believed in my voice, my light, my path before I had the courage to claim it fully. At a time when I was still questioning my worth and holding back my spiritual leadership, Jen’s confidence in who I was becoming was unshakable. And slowly, her belief became a mirror. I started to see in myself what she saw. I leaned into her faith in me, until I could find my own.

That is belief mirroring.

It’s not just about how we reflect our beliefs onto others, it’s about how their clear, loving reflection can awaken something long-dormant within us. Sometimes we borrow someone’s vision of us until we’re ready to carry it ourselves.

As I look back now, I see how that moment with Jen shaped my spiritual path. It taught me that trusting your vibe doesn’t always mean walking alone, it sometimes means allowing others to see you more clearly than you can see yourself. And trusting them until you learn to trust you.

Who has believed in you when you couldn’t yet? Have you told them what that meant to you (Here is your sign)? ✨